I’ve realized over the past 9 years that I raised my children the wrong way. I raised them to be independent, driven, strong, caring individuals. I often told them I wanted them to go out into the world, meet people and experience more than I have in my tiny town. Go. Do. Live.
WHAT WAS I THINKING??? As I write this my oldest is stationed in NC with his wonderful wife and their amazing 2 year old son. My daughter is in Texas, where her husband is stationed and she is finishing her master’s degree and getting ready to teach high school English. They are expecting their first child in February. They all (2 kids + 2 great spouses) are doing just what I encouraged them to do. Living a successful, honest, happy life. Thankfully they are amazing “kids” and they keep in contact with their mom and extended family. We often get pictures and hear from them several times a week.
I am thankful they are doing very well and are happy. I am thankful they are not homeless or battling drugs or in jail.
They turned out to be the very best people I know and so I miss them constantly.
I went through several years as the poster child for pitty parties r us. Big shoes no longer piled up in door ways. Flute music didn’t fill our house. The calendar went from daily practice and games to nada. I started getting consumed with feeling sorry for myself, making mental lists of things I was missing in their lives. Then, a good friend of mine passed away last fall and I realized that even tho I wasn’t physically with them, they were a very big part of my life. Even tho I wasn’t seeing all of my family daily, we still are connected. I promised my friend that night that I would give up my pitty party queen tiara and be happy, gosh dang it!
It has been a work in progress. I often pull from the positive energy of others and try my best to turn negative into positive.
Last summer we purchased a trave
l trailer and our short adventures have really helped boost our outlooks. We get to spend time together and have a common hobby…learning this trailer life has definitely been interesting.
I’m hoping to share some of the things we have learned, the good and the bad, plus our travels. I hope our “happy life” posts will bring some happy to you as well. Its a constant quest. We have to create our own happy. Life is so much better when we do.